When it comes to weight bullying, one size does not fit all. In my opinion, educating the perpetrator is a noble and worthy goal, but a distant third behind physical protection and walkawayability. Walkawayability is your lingering comfort level with what just went down. This is prime objective stuff, ‘cause it lasts forever. Your safety and psyche matter more than the harasser’s personal growth. Sometimes the walkawayability of an exchange will be at zero or one. You can’t always get it right. But there will be times it’s a full-out ten. There are as many correct responses to sizeist harassment as there are objects of it. Here’s my personal fave:
1) Aim your camera.
2) Say “Smile, Sizeist.” Or don’t.
4) Share. Here. Preferably both the image and the story.
When creating and/or posting photos or videos with accompanying text, please don’t do anything violent, dangerous, dishonest, or illegal. I’m also kinda weird about cursing in front of children, but I guess sometimes y’gotta fight fuckery with ‘fucks.’ Unkind references about the harasser’s appearance, age, race, gender, sexuality, or physical ability will be deleted.
I’m busy. Don’t make me edit you, a’ight?
Submit by hitting the ‘submit’ link at the top of the page. You needn’t have a tumblr account to submit. If you’d like to post anonymously, make certain you’re not logged in to tumblr when submitting.
Q: Oh hi. I can post pics of my actual dick, right?
Q: Are you that chick who takes pictures of naked fat ladies?
Q: I find that many fun and/or satisfying things are illegal. Is this one of them?
A: In the US, a photo taken in public is owned and controlled by the photographer, not the subject. The exception to this is when it’s taken in a public place which offers a reasonable expectation of privacy, such as a public restroom. If you believe it may be unlawful where you live, check that first. Conversely, if a submitter uses a photo taken by someone else and therefore owned by that someone else, and they do so without the owner’s permission, that is wrong, illegal, and wholly skank. If I learn that a stolen photo has been submitted to SmileSizeist.com, it will be removed, and the user banned. HULK SMASH.
Q: Okay, so now I know it’s legal to snap and post someone’s picture without their consent. (Note to self: stroll Ryan Gosling’s neighborhood on my lunch break.) But what about defamation?
A: One of the things an individual charging another with defamation is required to prove is that the incident didn’t happen. One of the submission guidelines here is that you be honest. So we’re all set. Give Ryan my love.
Q: Why not open up the site to all hate attacks? Do fat people need this more than the victims of attacks which are homophobic, racist, misogynistic, etc.?
A: No on both counts. Fat folks are no more or less deserving of a site like this than are other targets of hate. Nor are we “the last” or “the most” or “the first” or “the real” anything. This isn’t the Oppression Olympics. But there are a number of fine organizations and sites where other marginalized groups may document harassment and abuse. According to my research, there wasn’t one for fat people.
Q: How might one contact you to lodge a series of long-winded complaints, tell you you’re a misguided idiot, or inquire as to why you’re spelling ‘sizeist’ with an e?
A: smilesizeist “at” gmail.com
Q: Why are you spelling ‘sizeist’ with an e?
A: I know, right? That’s actually the correct, common, and accepted spelling. Seems counter-intuitive and unpleasant to look at, doesn’t it? Kind of fitting.
Q: So let me get this straight. Can I or can I not submit pictures of my penis?
A: Really rather you didn’t. This is for the beastly human sort of dick. Not the actual genital winky variety.
Q: Would you like me to help spread the word about this, following Smile Sizeist on Twitter and Facebook, saying awfully nice things about you and using the proper URL, smilesizeist.com?
A: Why yes. Yes I would.